Indicators of achievement of this step Branch of the past from this often involves a process of gradually developing the ability to recognize and prevent the occurrence again of the same reaction. It appears opportunity to acknowledge that what he feels may be related to its abuse. He can begin to identify situations in which he said feelings, and which were clearly related to the lived through abuse. He begins to realize that before him there is a choice. He can look back after he did something, and try to clarify the situation. He is able at the right time to separate their feelings from the past and make adjustments in developments occurring in the present. Methods Review of the events in detail and assisting him in the analysis of this event, seeing inconsistencies inconsistency his ratings. Carrying out work on the feelings of the group.

The ability to see the abuse in an emotional light helps separate this experience and to avoid permanent display at the moment. Consolidation of learning real test of any therapy is the ability to the client to change his daily life, adaptation, self-reliance in implementing these changes. He eventually grows to need therapeutic support and seeking support in his everyday world. Abuse of this moment begins to recede into the background, and the more recent events of great importance. These events are often aimed at gaining independence and self-actualization. Indicators achieve this step, he saw adult who can help him overcome the emerging children's feelings. Willingness and desire to help others, carrying out one or another volunteer. It can confront his abuser in a specific way if the abuser is, generally, can be found.

He knows that he has needs, and he can not satisfy them sexually. He gained support system that includes male friends. Compulsive behavior is under his control. Methods Find some way so that he could truly come into confrontation with their abuser. This may be writing and Sending letters, phone call or personal meeting. His desire to implement it – is a big step forward. Holding therapy session with his family parents can be useful for rooting of changes that He succeeded. If there is an opportunity to speak before an audience safe, it will allow him to strengthen confidence and reduce his sense of shame. Tell him 'Good-bye'. Translated into Russian, with permission, available at address: (MaleSurvior) 27.01.07. Translation: Alex Burnakov Peter Dimock – Specialist Teaching at the Faculty of Social Work at the University of Minnesota.